I have a coworker who has been fake nice to me for a while. I know he doesn’t like me for some reason ( I think my personality is just so awesome and he’s secretly jealous that I can command a room in a way that he can never). He’s never liked me since I’ve begun working there. Whatever, he’s a hater right? And for a while since he was rude to me, I would be rude back.
But I’ve since made a great effort to be super kind to him in the past several weeks because I know that he’s hurting on the inside. His lashing out and rude behavior isn’t just towards me, either, but definitely he hates me far more than the rest. I know he’s hurting because of stuff that has happened in his personal life. His beautiful high school sweetheart (I mean, legit, she’s super gorgeous) cheated on him with his best friend and so he divorced her. She is still with the best friend whom she cheated on with. This was over a year and half two years ago. I think he’s just an unhappy fuck.
Anyways I have made a grand effort to be kind to him and be gracious to him because I know what it’s like to be hurting so bad and you lash out at people. Obviously it’s not the way to live life, but he seems like he hasn’t learned that hard lesson yet. I made an effort to give him food one time at work and he was very gracious in accepting. Then, another time, a mutual friend invites him to join him and I to the cinemas. Normally, had he known I was going, he would have previously said no. But this time he went. I thought that meant we were slowly becoming friends, right?
Well, I tried to add him on facebook shortly after ( and by the way, he literally has everyone else in the office added as facebook friends) and he deliberately denied me. So I’m confused?? I haven’t been to work since it’s happened so I haven’t seen him but what the fuck is the deal? Should I even approach him about it? I don’t really want to because I don’t care if he is facebook friends with me, I was just trying to be nice.
But now it’s bugging me because I have to go into work tomorrow and I’m not a fake person, I can’t just pretend to be civil at work or pretend to be fake friends at work. It’s like…if you don’t want to be friends then don’t fucking talk to me. Don’t acknowledge me and I won’t acknowledge you. BUT at work he puts on this bullshit and pretends to be my friend. Probably to make himself look good infront of everyone else.
I kind of want to go along with it and continue to be the BETTER person because that’s I dunno what people should do, right? Should I be nice to him when he tries to talk to me at work? Or should I give him the cold shoulder? What do you guys think?